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In
the beginning detachment can be hard to remember, particularly in
uncomfortable situations. But once learned, it becomes a natural
response to anything that has mystery or discomfort attached to
it. Detachment in creative problem solving can lead to unusual solutions.
Detaching
allows you to get a broader and more encompassing view. My favorite
way to detach is to imagine that I am floating above the situation.
This not only allows me to be neutral, but it gives me a 360 degree
perspective on what I am involved in. This global viewpoint is similar
to viewing all the pieces of a jigsaw puzzle, rather than only a
few pieces at a time. It eliminates the "forest for the trees" limitation
so easy to fall into when we're personally involved in a difficult
situation.
If
you can remember daily to practice standing aside or floating above
whatever you're doing, you have the supreme vantage point. The first
challenge will be to let go emotionally. If you have a strong opinion
or investment in something, to detach and pretend that you are impartial
may cause great stress. But, from personal experience, I can attest
that developing the skill to detach will ultimately reduce most
stress from your life.
Detaching
also allows you to see the ridiculous or absurd that would otherwise
be overlooked. All of us have many situations that seemed tragic
at the time, but were comical in hindsight. Hindsight is useful
because we are now detached from the initial emotional investment
in the outcome. When you can distance yourself either with imagination,
or with time, you gain a new perspective.
This
is what Zen monks and all great spiritual and philosophical teachings
aspire to. The ability to participate, observe and act with an emotionally
centered and mentally uncluttered attitude is the result of detachment.
Study
those people who have a good sense of humor; Robin Williams, Tim
Allen, George Burns, Lily Tomlin, Ellen Degeneris and other noted
comedians. Notice that they are funny because they always seem to
see the absurd in any situation and bring it into focus. Also notice
that they seem a bit aloof. They don't allow themselves to become
so emotionally entangled in what they're observing that they can't
see the absurd and seize it.
Your
creativity will become spontaneous when you learn to detach yourself
at will. Whether it be a mental, emotional or physical problem you're
dealing with, appropriate solutions will present themselves as if
by magic when you use this technique. Your sense of humor will blossom
and life will take on the fascination and "enchantment" it was meant
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